29, decent job, decent flat, no idea if any of it is mine or just what I fell into. It feels ungrateful to say out loud, which is why I'm asking strangers.
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31, married, mortgaged, and completely certain none of it was chosen on purpose.
Stopped asking 'what do I want to do with my life' and started asking 'what do I want next Tuesday to feel like'. Much smaller question, actually answerable.
Feeling lost at 29 is not a diagnosis, it's a transition. Mine lasted 14 months and I'd have panicked less if someone had put a number on it.
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