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Tom H.

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Panic attacks on the train for three years. They stopped. Happy to explain exactly what the road looked like.

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Tom H.
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4.7★ · 112 helped
2d ago

What I would suggest trying

Name the thought out loud in one sentence. 'I'm worried I embarrassed myself.' Said aloud it loses about 40% of its size. Sounds silly, worked for me for two years now.

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Tom H.
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4.7★ · 112 helped
4d ago

What I went through

Three years of waking at 5am with my chest already tight, before a job I genuinely liked.

What helped me

Treating it as a body problem first. Cold water on the wrists, a walk before screens, and eating something before caffeine. Anxiety on an empty stomach with coffee is a different animal.

What I would suggest trying

Move one thing you dread to the first 20 minutes of the day. The anticipation was always worse than the task.

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